The Name of the Game is Patience

Lady GaGa calls it a love game; I call it a waiting game. The saying goes: patience is a virtue. Well, as frustrating as it is, no relationship is going to get anywhere without a little patience – the lesson of today.

Here’s the situation: you are head over heels for a guy, and have been for a while. But, he seems indifferent to your very existence. You get a couple smiles every now and then, or you two will go out once or twice, but it never amounts to anything. In my humble opinion, this type of guessing game is the worst. While you’re wrapped up in his eyes, his smile and the cute way he talks with his hands, he seems completely oblivious to your swoons and sighs. You’re left guessing - What is he thinking? Why is he looking at me like that? Oh my God his arm is touching my arm, was that on purpose?

Then this guessing game leads to paranoia and everything just goes downhill from there.

Plucking petals is not going to get you any closer to the apple of your eye. Think more along the lines of a lioness stalking her prey… patently waiting until the right moment to strike. Some times she misses, but more often than not, she comes back with a pretty prize. Check this out (only the first two minutes or so):



But putting the National Geographic aside, the principal of the matter is that it is imperative that the timing is right. So, just sit tight and let the moment happen. Don’t try and force anything. Remember that you are NOT a character in The Notebook, so the likelihood of him taking you to an abandoned house and confessing his love is pretty slim, perhaps damn near impossible.

Also, don’t be afraid to make a move. Like Bob Dylan wrote, "for the times they are a changin." Believe it or not, guys like it when girls show confidence – this is a perfect opportunity to do just that. So before you get out of his car to walk up your driveway. Stop yourself and just say "what the heck!" Throw the jitters out the window. You’ve been patiently waiting – feeling out a perfect opportunity or waiting for the right moment. Well, when it comes, don’t hesitate. You are strong and beautiful. Reach down and connect with your inner lioness. Grrrrrr